Dear Emily Post,
I was wondering if you could clear up some questions I have regarding etiquette. You see, I’m wondering if people are becoming more rude, or if I’m just completely out of touch with current standards. So, could you please tell me when it became socially acceptable to:
ask me how much I pay for things. Anything – car, house, rug, purse, gym membership. Why is it so important for people to know what I pay?
ask how much someone inherited from a family death. Yes, my dear friend Mary has actually been asked lately the amount of her inheritance.
include where a bride/mom-to-be is registered with the invitation. It used to be that a guest asked where the bride/mom was registered instead of having it assumed she was to bring a gift to the shower.
send email thank you notes. This, in my world, will never take the place of a handwritten note. Never.
to assume that since I don’t have a full-time job I have nothing to do all day. I can assure you, I have many things to do and my time is just as valuable as every one else’s.
have personal conversations on your cell phone in public then give me dirty looks when I repeatedly say “excuse me” to get past you. Same for conversing on the cell phone while checking out at the store or at the bank.
ask personal questions about a doctor’s visit then give details about it. I really don’t need to know all about your last exam.
I understand there are exceptions to all of this. My friends and I can talk about all these things without it seeming rude. However, I still send thank you notes to my friends and family for gifts. That’s just something that my mother ingrained in my head as a child. Thanks, mom!