I made a mistake. I knew I shouldn’t have done it at the time, but I did it anyway. I let a friend start cutting my hair and I’m really unhappy. I told him I was a difficult customer and I was really picky about my hair. I have made my cutting desires crystal clear. I’ve taken in pictures, talked about how I style it, discussed lifestyle, products, etc. but I’m still unsatisfied. Today I called him to take him to lunch so we could talk about it. What I really want to do is find someone else to do my hair and remain friends with Duane. He wasn’t available for lunch but was willing to listen to me. I told him our friendship meant a lot to me, that I knew I was a hard customer, that I didn’t want to hurt him but that I was unhappy. He seemed to understand and told me he would either fix the problem or I could move on. I made the silent decision to move on. We ended the call on a good note and I began thinking of alternatives.
Then he called a few hours later. Now he’s offering to meet me tomorrow on his day off and fix my hair. I feel like I should offer him the chance to fix it, but I’m scared to lose more hair in the process. I really don’t mind it being a little shorter in the summer, but I don’t want to lose so much I can’t do anything with it. Of course, I can’t do anything with it right now! Valerie thinks I should move on and my gut says I should, but I feel bad not honoring Duane’s offer to fix it.
Advice anyone? Have you ever been in a similar situation? Does your hair mean as much to you as mine does to me ( I doubt it!)?
Pretty Pretty Bang Bang 
My advice would be to follow your gut and move on. I’m one of the few people who probably know how much your hair means to you and I think you’ve handled the situation very well – but if he fixes it now, I think this will happen again and the second time it will be stickier. Just tell him it’s for his own good – and that your mom will vouch for that!
Thank him for his offer but find another stylist, move on and preserve your friendship.
I followed my gut. I called him back and thanked him for the offer but told him I wanted to keep our friendship more than I wanted him to correct my hair. Then I sent flowers. Overkill? Well, maybe, but I wanted him to know this was a hard decision and not one I took lightly. I included a note that said, “Thanks for understanding.” He called after receiving the flowers, gushed about how unnecessary they were (but gorgeous), then invited us to dinner on Saturday. I’d say the extra $$$ on flowers was worth it to brighten his day.
The new haircut had better be worth this or I’m going to be really po’d.
Not sure if you’re looking for referrals for hair stylists – but I reallllly like my stylist. Her name is Serena – she works at the French Door on Republic Rd. I’m not much on monogamy or commitment to stylist – tend to go where the winds blows me – but after Serena cut my hair I haven’t strayed (unless you count the brief time that I lost track of her when she switched salons but then I saw a picture of her in 417 at her new salon and I was rehooked)!